Relationships, Friends, and Truth

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I was watching Thomas Sheridan’s video series on Love that he did, as I am doing research to write a piece on “Truth is Love, Love is Truth”. One of his guests had something important to say that ignited some contemplations about friendship as it relates to truth.

“A friend is a person that you are comfortable with at a collective level of emotional honesty. Most people are not emotionally honest. Most people have a lot of friends, because they lie to each other all the fucking time. If one of those people becomes emotionally honest, something happens to the friendship, the friends just dropped away, because there is no more comfort left.”
– Anonymous

When you have a true appreciation for someone, usually that strength of relationship, the strength of that bond, is based on honesty. Truth is what builds friendships (or relationships of other kinds), real friendships, not superficial fake friendships. A friend of this kind is one you can be intellectually and emotionally honest with. Many people have many friends, but they have this number of friends because they lie to each other all the time because they don’t want to upset any apple carts. When a person attempts to be honest, other people can react negatively to the truth and tend to put up a defense against it. The friendship is affected, and people can drop away because their sense of comfort that existed with ignorance is shattered. The honesty and truth is not welcome for them, they don’t want to hear it and resent you in a way for speaking it, you killed their comfort zone.

This relates to people waking up, when we realize the lies of the government, money, law, society, etc. When you try to speak the truth, that is when you will know who your true friends are. That is when you will know who is at a certain level of consciousness. Many people literally respond “I don’t want to go there, don’t force it on me, I’m not listening,” or you can understand that is what they are saying when they spit out excuses, justifications and other defensive rationalizations to attempt to dismiss, deny or avoid the subject. Others may say that they are not interested in it but that’s fine if you are, and others still will welcome the truth and want to know more despite how uncomfortable it may be to hear because they actually recognize the supreme importance of truth in our lives. For some, the light of truth shines too brightly because of their current condition of being so enamored and entrenched in darkness.

Commonality of being, of understanding, of interests, is what builds the strongest relationships. The foundation is based on truth. The more truth you have in common, the stronger the bond, because it it based in reality, what ‘is’, and not on a semblance of reality based on ignoring or denying the truth someone doesn’t want to face.

When you sacrifice the truth, compromise the truth, when you are not honest and truthful, and you just try to keep the peace, don’t rock the boat, don’t make waves, sugarcoat it, don’t step on any toes, being fake nice, is not doing anyone any good. It only sustains a semblance of an actual friendship, not a true friendship founded on honesty. This is censoring yourself, being in fear, being silenced, conforming to a false sense of peace and niceness, the fear of discomfort and atrophy of critical thinking. Politeness and courtesy have overridden our sense of responsibility and duty to honesty and truth. This makes it very hard to confront others concerning lies, deceptions and illusions we base our lives are that create wrongdoings in the manifested reality through our behaviors and actions.

“Don’t cheat people by conspiring with them to protect their comfort zones.”
– Henry David Thoreau

“Cowardice asks the question: “Is it safe”?
Expediency asks the question: “Is it politic”?
Vanity asks the question: “Is it popular?”
But conscience asks the question: “Is it right?”
And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular but one must take it because one’s conscience tells one what is right.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of convenience, but where he stands in moments of challenge, moments of great crisis and controversy.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

What is this about?

Speak the truth.
Don’t be a coward.
Don’t censor yourself to comfort ignorance.
Don’t sacrifice/compromise the truth.
Don’t sacrifice/compromise truth for fear of:
– discomfort
– not keeping-the-peace
– rocking the boat
– making waves
– stepping on toes
– not being spiritually or politically “correct”
– not “being nice”
Don’t sugar coat it.

Not speaking truth is:
– conformity
– silence
– complacency
– atrophy of critical thinking

Truth is Love. Love is Truth. Truth units. Lies divide.

recognize and stand with truthLetting go of attachments to false beliefs, lies, deceptions and illusions we use to base our sense of self and identity upon is the only solution for any of us to build real, honest, truthful relationships. The degree to which you can be honest with another determines your trust, appreciation, interaction, and more, with them. We will trust, appreciate and interact more with those who share greater degrees of understanding truth, and even more so with those who not only understand intellectually, but truly understand to the point they align, unite, harmonize, embody, become and live the truth in their lives.

“To know and not to do, is not to know.”
-Yangming

Simply knowing isn’t enough. We have to become and BE the truth in our lives and live by example. This is the wisdom of right-action. In a future post about “Truth is Love, Love is Truth” in its highest expression, I will come back to the devotion to truth and those in our history who have fearlessly taken the responsibility to speak it and shatter the lies we surround ourselves with, to shine light on the darkness and dispel it. Truth as love has been previously discussed in the site Introduction, as well as the Truth, Consciousness and Polarity and Natural Law articles.

I have much work yet to do to embody truth in all its degrees of application, especially in speaking the truth to others in my daily life. I need to become more engaged and get the word out in person, not just Facebook sharing of various degrees of truth I have come to comprehend. My family doesn’t really want to hear about it, they don’t care about truth, especially when it involves aspects of their being and doing in life. I don’t have many friends, the few I do have are based on certain commonalities of interest, not much on the supreme importance of truth above everything else. I need to take it to the streets I guess and try to get more people interested in learning about reality and the importance of truth in their lives.

allergic to bullshit, keep it real, truth

Peace.

Truth, Love , Freedom.

If you want to read a similar post I wrote yesterday: Am I ignoring others?

4 comments

  • Mark Passio, “cut off the causers”, WOEIH #151, 71m.

    “Cut off the causers… Is this the equivalent of guilting someone? Yes. There is a reason that guilt exists. There is a reason that the emotion of guilt exists, it is to be felt. Just like anger exists, it is to be felt. When something is going wrong, when something is unjust, inequities are taking place around us, injustice is taking place around us, that is what anger is there for, to be felt in the physiology, so that you will get up off your rear end, get motivated to do something to change that condition. Guilt is there for a reason too. It is to make people understand that what they are doing is immoral… That emotion will help [you] come out of that dark Satanic mindset.”

    “A concentrated campaign of hammering the truth of Natural Law into people, to get them to understand that what they are doing is wrong and needs to stop. This is what people don’t want to hear. They want to hear what they should be doing. No, I will tell you what you should not be doing. The solution lies in the negative pathway [apophasis, wei wu wei]. The New Age Kool-Aid wants you to think it is all about building something new, no, it is about stopping doing what you are doing that is immoral and then the world will change, and then it won’t be enslaved anymore. No one wants to hear this, they want to hear crazy over-the-top complicated solutions involving doing all kinds of new things. This is not how the world will change, we don’t need anything new, we need to stop doing what we are currently doing that we have no right to continue to do. Why does no one want to hear this? It firmly places the responsibility on your shoulders, you are the one who is causing it by your behavior, and they do not want to hear this. People always want to believe it is someone else and always want to point the finger [before looking at themselves and their own behavior].”

    “Giving ultimatums [x amount of time to change, if not, then we are out of their lives, cut them off]… We need to get hard-core. We need to start making these people do what they are doing with no support from us. The idea of supporting these people needs to be withdrawn. Is that guilting them? Yes it is. Is it right? Yes it is. Somebody would have every right to withdraw all interactions with another human being, disown them as a family member.”

    “Pressure is required to create change. It will not just happen willfully, all of a sudden just admitting they were wrong the whole time. Someone will have to make them see it… This is a full expression of the masculine force of truth. ”

    “If mothers, sisters, brothers, fathers, daughters did that, maybe we would start to make progress on these people. Because, just sweet talking to these people and handing them a DVD that they will never watch will never get it done, it is not the way to do the Great Work… It will take a level of extremity that most human beings are not prepared for. ”

    – Mark Passio

    • The easy way to force a change in another person’s thinking is to deprive him of a desired opportunity unless or until that change is made.
      – Richard Wetherill, Right is Might, pg. 12

      We can hope only to surround the prejudiced person with patterns of influence and example that will demonstrate a better way of life. If need be, influence and example can be supplemented with stronger devices such as withdrawal of support. When a large number of persons actually participate in a movement of that sort, whether organized or spontaneous, those who refuse to change will inevitably ensure their own downfall.
      – Richard Wetherill, Right is Might, pg. 13

  • Buddha talks about True Unity and solitude, walking your path with those at your level, or going at it alone so that you can create at your full potential and not stagnate in false “unity” of only creating at other people’s levels:

    “If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
    – Buddha

  • Some corrections for me to apply in my life, just keep coming back at them, and make them tell you they don’t want to hear from you again because they don’t want to hear about what you talk about. They have to say it.

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