Who wants change?
Change is a constant in life. We meet new people. We get jobs. New things are invented. We have children. We buy new things. We go on vacation. These are basic changes that deal with our personal life. We can handle this change because we are bringing it on ourselves. We choose to do these things based on our desires that motivate us to do it.
But there are things that are less personal related to us as individuals, and more universally related to the collective of society or the world. There are things that need to change. Some of them we’re aware of, and some not. When we become aware of them, we want things to change.
But, are we willing to do the work to make things change? A lot of times it means we have to change things ourselves, and start with ourselves changing first. This is often unwelcome. We just want things to change without doing the work on ourselves that is often required.
- denial of the change being necessary or even valid as an option
- reacting with anger at the chaotic conflict of new information clashing with the old, new way clashing with the old
- resisting the change through bargaining to try to hold onto the former/old/current way and not have to change so much
- the depression, fear and uncertainty of realizing that change does need to happen
- no more struggling against it, accept it and see the hope and optimism in making the change happen
If we don’t want to see a problem, or how something can be better, then there is no chance in changing anything. Seeing ourselves and world with clarity is required. When we have something that benefits us, we often don’t want to change the condition, because we benefit from it ourselves. This can make us ignore how a condition is not working out for everyone involved.
Sometime we need to step out of our subjective attachment to ourselves, our personal lives, our personal desires and whims, and look at ourselves and others together to see the better path forward. This is to look at things more objectively, where we aren’t blinding to the bigger picture due to be being too attached and blinded by our ego-centrism or self-concern for ourselves while ignoring what’s happening around us.
Change is often hard when it requires us to change or give up something we are attached to, comfortable with having, or think we’re entitled to. But it’s usually worth it when looking at the long term result and benefits that everyone can have.